A Family's Greatest Treasure

Grandparents are a family's greatest treasure, the founders of a loving legacy, The greatest storytellers, the keepers of traditions that linger on in cherished memory. Grandparents are the family's strong foundation. Their very special love sets them apart. Through happiness and sorrow, through their special love and caring, grandparents keep a family close at heart. ~author unknown


Wow, I couldn't agree more.  This past week marked some important dates for my family.  On August 6th, my extended family decided that my 93 year old beloved grandfather would discontinue heroic measures and accept the natural sequence of a failing medical condition.  The heart break and emotional struggle as we realize the finality of this decision was at times overwhelming.  The retold story of how my grandmother, his bride of 68 years, told him it was "OK to go" was nothing shy of gut wrenching.  His "very special love sets him apart." 


A day later we reflected on the 15th anniversary of the passing of my maternal grandmother.  What an impact she had on the people we have become.  We look back at the myriad of examples her life and her love taught us.  Laugh, learn and remain faithful to your family.  A clear example of unconditional love, "sets her apart".


Why is it that grandparents have that incredible ability to stamp our hearts with their unique, indelible mark?  I know for myself and my siblings, that although the physical body may fail, the "who" of my grandparents will never fade.  I also know that many families share this sentiment. 


Time and time again anthropologists, sociologists and National Geographic authors (Dan Beutner) write about cultures where generations of families live under one roof.   If we look at happiness, quality of life and meaningfulness, it is in those connected cultures where grandparents are an important, valued part of the family life, that  happiness and longevity are richest.


In the American culture, as we slowly return to the value of the family, we should consider the role our grandparents play(ed) in our lives.  If you still have living grandparents (and thankfully I do), call them.  Reach out, ask for a story, remember a funny time or a just share a new experience.  If you have children, kindle their connection with their grandparents.  And if you are a grandparent, thank you.  Your strong foundation for our families is a true treasure.